What makes a good relationship?

What is relationship? 

Do we really understand what relationship is? I am asking this question because we all have relations but does not know about relationship and feels to understand when it is broken away so badly. Why does it really need to understand at this point? 

This is important because in our life we stay among people whether we are at work or in our personal life, everywhere we are surrounded by people. Isn’t it?

I think we don’t understand it well because we think of oneself all the time. Although, relationship is always in relation to something or someone. Isn’t true?

How the relationship works?

Our relations work when we treat them as we treat ourselves. We expect as much as it's possible. When we don’t impose unnecessary expectations on others.

Listening and communication are the most important keys in any relationship that keeps a relation alive.

Most importantly, we must understand that when we come to know or look at something or someone while letting go of our egos, we do not create any differences.

We do not treat others as we treat ourselves, that’s the reason we do not get good relations in our life.

What Relationships we want and how to maintain a good relation at different levels ?

We want something from each other in a relationship. True, there is always something to be offered  in any relationship. But how do we know that what we can offer the other and what the other desires from us. 

Can only a relationship be maintained in that case? Is it really relationship, or something else? Or is there something else that needs to be clarified?

In my opinion, there must be some expectations in a relationship, as long as they are realistic. We feel their pain, worries, and happiness if we have such a good relationship.

Similarly, if you put your efforts, and the other person still does not value you, belittles you, and makes you feel bad for your mental health. Then, it's time to let go of that relationship. This happens because we choose our relationships without knowing who we are.

However, there are some relations that are not chosen but are born with them. I hope you are aware of those relations that we all have. In order to have a good relationship, we must  have a good relationship with ourselves. Then we can be good with others. What are your thoughts?